What makes relationships strong? Is it the trust, commitment or honesty, you may have hear about them earlier, but there is one more thing. This too makes relationship strong and genuine, boundaries. You hear me right, boundaries do make relationship strong, authentic to be precise. By relationships, I imply to every kind of it. Parents, Siblings, spouses, colleagues and friends too.
Relationship should have boundaries, and limits. It does not mean, being in a relationship, I will not have my personal space. It is much required to set boundaries in relationships for making them strong. If , not people might take us lightly, disrespect or cheat us.
Moreover, you got your own life and work, you can’t be available for everyone all the time. If I promised something to myself, I should be doing it instead of thinking about others. You might want to help others, but you should be sure about them, do they really need your help. Often, I find people who having hard time saying no or turning down offer, they don’t like. It’s not bad, to think for yourselves too, you got to settle your life first.
Don’t you ever think that saying them no, is rude or unkind, yes, they might feel bad but you can’t make everyone happy? Friends and family are sometimes annoying, they keep on asking favors, Knowingly or unknowingly, we can’t help them. That is the time I try to set boundaries with them.
By setting boundaries to these 4 groups of people, You don’t cut ties with them, they still are friends and families. You avoid them so that they don’t make your life negative and stressful. You still love and respect them and get involved with them as little as possible. This doesn’t end rather makes relationships strong.
Being available every time is not always good.
They are people who create problems themselves and later go on crying about it. Does it ring a bell, do you remember any? The fundamental problem is that they will not do Anything to solve the problems, rather they will cry and complain about it. You can help them but How many times will you do that? They will never get bored with asking favors, so set Boundaries with them. They too will feel your life with negativity.
People who complain always can never be pleased, a complainer can never be pleased. They will find negativity in anything you talked about, No matter how positive you are about a thing, they Will find something bad in it. They are too reluctant to look on the greater side or the positive side. They will keep on complaining instead of doing anything.
Some will never compliment you rather judge you. They will never be happy with your Success. Instead of being happy with your promotions, they will judge you. They will doubt your Achievements and will never appreciate your hard work. We all love appreciations, it not only motivated us to work but also makes the relationships strong and healthy.
Few lack compassion and feelings. Not having feelings does not mean that he/she is powerful. Having compassion is being human, you can avoid it or hide it and Feelings do not make us weak. Having compassion for others is not at all bad, rather, it makes relationships strong. It is normal to cry at another’s loss and be happy in another’s happiness. I avoid people who are not compassionate about others. If you don’t have empathy, your relationships will never be strong .
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Conclusion
Don’t you ever think that saying them no, is rude or unkind, yes, they might feel bad but you can’t make everyone happy? Help them, if they really need it. If you find them overdoing it, simply say them no, don’t think twice about it.
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